Is a Nanny Really Part of the Family

Frequently a nanny will come to me confused and upset that she just doesn't know how to act on an interview. "Each time I go to an interview, I am getting turned down for one reason or another and I just don't know what I am doing wrong. It is either a family that wants me to become "part of the family" or it is someone that wants me to have more distance and be slightly less personable and more reserved. Some families want me to be talkative and outgoing while others seem to want a more quiet disposition. What is the magic formula? How should I act on an interview?"

My response is as follows: When you are seeking a job for this kind of position where you are working in someone's home closely with the parents, it is a touchy situation. You walk a fine line between being "part of the family" and demonstrating a more "professional conduct". The first thing you must always do is be yourself and then find a way to make necessary adjustments so that you are "professional at all times". It is necessary to be pleasant and engaging, but not to necessarily say "I want to be part of the family." Maybe the family isn't interested in having that relationship with you. This isn't your family, it is your employer and ultimately that is the relationship you both want to have together. One where you both are respectful and do not cross any boundaries. You want to be able to ask your employer for direction and constructive criticism and be in a position where you can also ask your employer to abide by what has been stipulated in your employment agreement.

For a better understanding of protocol on the job and while interviewing for household positions, you can read more in "The Professional Housekeeper" Career guides.

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